Where Scott and Tessa are coming from is where sanctimony lives. We are exceptional. A special case. We're not proud of our approach but we feel it's necessary. Our circumstances are unique.
That's bullshit and is always self-serving. It's down to stubborness and self-absorption, especially when no matter what your private feelings, you sell out on a personal level because it serves your interests. Oh wait - facebook isn't personal - it doesn't count. It's fan crap.
Other options available to Scott and Tessa are to get mature management and manage fan interaction maturely. They prefer be cheese-eating monkeys, smiling in everyone's faces, spitting out canned pageant-style sound-bites, normalizing the most out-of-bounds fan behavior and feigning naivete. Partly because this approach justifies the choices they've made - the overcooked, indecent social media manipulations, lies and calculations. Instead of forthrightly acknowledging that they, like every public figure, need privacy, they pretend they don't - they pretend to be ultra candid while living as the most secretive personalities in sports.
There's not a figure skater on this planet who discloses everything - even those who admit to dating or marriage know how to divert public interest to non-intrusive aspects of their partnership. Not these two. On facebook, Scott is OVERLY sharing of his "personal" life because what's shared is manufactured for the sharing. They're just so much smarter than us.
The pretext is Scott and Tessa belong to Canada. Fans are family. There are no secrets in family. The medal is Canada's, THEY'RE Canada's. So they make shit up and dish it out to fans on facebook, in their book, in interviews and odd lot media ops, rearranging reality with lies and complete inventions. While the truth is they're more closed than the Mafia. What Scott and Tessa put out to the public and on facebook is as real as Tony Soprano pretending to be in waste management.
I don't know what it is - maybe the need to feel 100% in control of not just what's out there, but what people say and think (sorry, IMPOSSIBLE). What people think of you is none of your business. To obsess this much over it reveals the self-obsession of children.
They behave with fans so as to justify the necessity of the choices they make - but neither the behavior nor choices are necessary.